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50 Rules for Dads of Daughters {by Michael Mitchell}

I was in tears as I read through this list, as I’m sure many grown daughters will be. Mothers – bookmark this list of rules and encourage your daughter’s daddy to read them, memorize them, and put them in to action. And, to all you Dads out there – be sure you pay close attention and heed these wise words.

About Michael 
Michael Mitchell is an (almost) thirty-something dad who blogs daily tips and life lessons for dads of daughters at lifetoheryears.com. He spends his days practicing the arts of fatherhood and husbandry, while attempting to be a man of God and a professional raiser of philanthropic funds. On the rare occasion he’s not tied up with the aforementioned and other pursuits of awesomeness, he enjoys fighting street gangs for local charities and drinking from a cup that’s half full. Bookmark Life To Her Years, follow Michael on Twitter, and “like” him on Facebook for more “rules”.


1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.


2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.


3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.


4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.


5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.


6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.


7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.


8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.


9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.


10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.


11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”


12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.


13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.


14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.


15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.


16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.


17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.


18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.


19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.


20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.


21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.


22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.


23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.


24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.


25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.


26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.


27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.


28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.


29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.


30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.


31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.


32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.


33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.


34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.


35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.


36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.


37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.


38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.


39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.


40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.


41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.


42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.


43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.


44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.


45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.


46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.


47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.


48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.


49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.


50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.

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49 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life

Posted by Andrea Owen on August 4, 2011

Last week Danielle LaPorte wrote this post that I loved. It’s 49 promo ideas and it made me think how much I would love to write 49 ways that I think people could live a kick-ass life. So I did.

  1. Make a decision to love yourself.
  2. Look in the mirror today and tell yourself, “I am fucking awesome”.
  3. Send an email to 5 friends asking how you can support them.
  4. Masturbate. Privately.
  5. Tell 5 people about your secret dream.
  6. If you have an addiction to anything (or anyone), get help.
  7. Admit out loud that thing your gut has been telling you.
  8. Know that when you love yourself, the right people will be attracted to you and show up in your life. It’s science.
  9. Stop making everything about you.
  10. Get rid of all clothes that don’t fit you. Too big or too small.
  11. That thing that you love to do that you don’t have time for? Make time.
  12. That thing that you love to do but think you’re too old, or too fat, or too whatever? Do it anyway.
  13. Admit that people that don’t like you or judge you, the problem is theirs. So, now you can let it go.
  14. Write down all of your values. Things that are important to you, period. Then ask yourself how alive they are in your life.
  15. Dance.
  16. List your non-negotiables. The things you have to have to make you, you. Make them happen.
  17. Communicate effectively (see #19).
  18. Admit that things don’t really happen to you.
  19. Listen without thinking about what you’re going to say next.
  20. Accept your sense of humor. Even if other people think you’re weird. They just don’t get you.
  21. Hide updates of people that really get under your skin on Facebook. Or unfriend them.
  22. Laugh.
  23. Accept that you’ll never be perfect.
  24. Write down everything you’ve learned from the most painful parts of your life.
  25. Realize that the people that try the most to be perfect, are the people that are really suffering.
  26. Write 100 things you love about yourself.
  27. Accept that people’s perfect outsides are never a match of their insides.
  28. Remember you are always at choice. In feelings and actions.
  29. Remember that “fat” is not a feeling. That also goes with “ugly” and “stupid”.
  30. That thought that you aren’t good enough? That’s your gremlin voice. Work on managing it.
  31. If you’re a scanner-type person (like me); you’re not crazy or wishy-washy. You’re you. And you’re awesome.
  32. Stop dieting. No matter how much they promise you’ll lose weight.
  33. Remember there are very few things you have control over. And even those are questionable.
  34. Take your time when you go to the bathroom. And use good TP.
  35. Use the good china for PB & J’s.
  36. Remember that we all have issues.
  37. Don’t allow people to suck you into their drama. They love audiences. Tell them “no thank you”.
  38. Admit that when you’re trying to run other people’s lives, you’re avoiding dealing with the shit in your own.
  39. Remember that your body is the only house you’ll ever get. Love it daily.
  40. Letting go of resentments can be one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself.
  41. If you can’t figure out where your day went, get the hell off Facebook.
  42. Start creating, start a revolution, just start something.
  43. You’re the only one who has control over how kind and compassionate you are to you.  Set the bar for others.
  44. Stop bitching and moaning. You’d be surprised how much you can change if you just ask nicely.
  45. Throw a theme party.
  46. Remember the only person that can destroy you, is you.
  47. Close the laptop, put down the phone.
  48. There is no shame in not knowing what you want to do when you grow up.
  49. Really, really, really, really know that there is not another soul just like you. That knowledge deserves a party.